Since the 21st century changed relationships in a few aspects, you have to be ready to take a risk to find true love. Blind dates are very popular, so you have to get used to it. Most of us have had a few failed relationships but you don’t have to waste your time anymore.
There are a lot of things you can do to establish if your blind date is worth your time. If you are ready to leave your comfort zone and try something new and wacky, you are in the right place.
In the past 15 years, people are able to find partners from all over the world thanks to modern technology and easy ways of communication. The Internet provides a lot of information about different people so it’s even easier to meet interesting people like you. Apart from social media, there are a lot of dating sites for finding a soulmate.
Looks like finding a partner has never been easier. You can find different types of partner according to your standards, but that doesn’t guarantee that you won’t burn yourself a couple of times. Going out on a blind date is always exciting if you relax and try to be yourself.
A lot of dates won’t turn out as you expected, but we can try to help you out with the following tips. We hope that this is going to be helpful. Don’t waste your time if you don’t have to.
Choose someone to set you up instead of finding a date on social media
Social media is the most popular way to find a blind date. That’s fun, but a better way is to ask someone to set you up. Your friends know you the best so they can find someone who matches your character. Your best friends are always there for you so they know what’s good for you and what kind of partner you’d like. If you are surrounded by a lot of friends – it’s even easier.
Keep asking for help
Don’t be ashamed to ask a friend to set you up with someone. It’s probably very hard to find a partner in your circle of friends, but friends of a friend can help you for sure. Don’t be prejudiced, a lot of people are doing this. Don’t feel miserable or anxious.
The fact that you’re ready to fall in love with your blind date doesn’t mean that you can’t find someone without help. Every person is beautiful and special in their own way and everyone is trying to find a partner this way or another. If your friends want to set you up with someone, it only means that you are special to them. Remember that any kind of help is welcome.
The advantage of social media and dating apps
If you choose to find a blind date on social media, that’s also OK. But please try to find out everything about your potential date before meeting with them. Everyone can hide his or her identity under a perfect picture on social media.
Everyone hides behind happiness and perfection that you can see on social media. There is no person who will post a picture that represents insecurity or negativity.
The advantage of social media is that you can search and investigate activities of your blind date. You can also check if you have mutual friends who can help you find some information about your blind date. Dating apps have also become a big part of our lives and can be a good way to find someone with similar interests.
Of course, you can compare profiles and interests on different social media apps. But don’t be scared, not everyone is ready to scam you. We are sure that person of your dreams is out there waiting. One more piece of advice – don’t stalk.
Ask your date to talk about himself and listen
The best way to get to know each other is talking. Good communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship. Be open about whether you are ready to build a strong relationship from the beginning.
Don’t be afraid to ask personal questions. Try to talk about everyday life, music, books, art or TV shows, but avoid topics such as politics, religion or anything negative. You don’t want to eliminate your blind date because of issues that are too complex for a short date. Instead of being boring, ask open-ended questions and let them search for an answer.
Talk about your weekend activities, important people in your life, about what makes you laugh and what makes you sad, about your dreams and the future. Just be sure to listen more than you talk because you want to show yourself in the best light.
Here’s the kind of questions you can ask
Try to be honest and ask literally everything you care about but also be ready to answer their questions. Avoid talking about previous relationships and don’t compare yourself with your partner’s ex-lovers. Don’t expect anything, time will tell. The less you expect, the less disappointed you will be if something goes wrong.
Ask questions like: ‘’What are your life goals?’’, ‘’What kind of activities makes you happy?’’, etc. Don’t be afraid to ask and talk about their childhood, family, and friends. Also, ask questions about kids and raising a family if you are interested in such things.
Raise your standards
You must be clear about what you are looking for in a relationship. If your personalities are compatible, you don’t have to be afraid. Get ready for a blind date and be yourself if you want to leave a good impression.
Do you have the same interests?
If the answer is yes, then you are on the right path. We’re sure that you think that physical appearance is the most important, but it’s not. First of all, your blind date must have the same or similar interests as you do. You have to imagine a future with your potential partner. Try to make a list of your partner’s interests and check what meets your standards.
A list of positive and negative traits can help you with the selection. Write everything down that is on your mind, it will help you to see the situation more realistically. If there are more positive traits, your blind date deserves to meet you again.
Even if you don’t have a lot in common you might share some core values
On the other hand, if you and your date have no common interests but have the same core values, give it a shot. Your interests can change in the future. Try to remember your taste in music and books from a few years ago. We’re sure that you have changed a lot. It’s important that you have common interests, but it’s even more important that you want the same things.
For example, if both of you like dogs, hiking or a specific sport, or if you both enjoy cooking or art, you have a foundation for building a deeper relationship. The most important thing is that you can spend quality time together. Don’t worry about differences.
If your taste in music, books, TV shows and movies is different, don’t be afraid because you can complement each other. Be ready to accept your partner as they are. You won’t be able to change the things you don’t like about someone. And we are sure that you don’t want someone to change your personality.
Chemistry is something that you can’t feel before a date
Don’t get disappointed if you can’t feel anything. Be yourself and don’t panic. Feelings will come if it’s meant to be. Even if you think that you’ve met someone by talking on the phone or chatting, that’s not possible.
Real emotions and chemistry will appear after you meet each other in reality. You just have to stay positive and leave your insecurities and fears behind. Don’t give up before you are sure that someone does not comply with the picture of your perfect partner.
Look for good manners
No one can express kind manners and good behavior via phone. When you meet in real life, you will see if your partner fits you. Don’t be selfish and let them express their feelings. Don’t expect a romance or a story with a happy ending after the first date. Fairytales are not for brave people like you.
The chemistry will improve over time. Good manners and a respectful attitude can light up that spark you are looking for. Energy and that magnetic force of attractiveness will arrive after a while. It’s very important to prepare a foundation for an open conversation on your next date. You will know what to talk about if you reveal a lot of details. When you get to know each other, the feelings will just appear.
If you decide that you can’t build a relationship with your blind date, that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a one night stand or become friends. A lot of couples used to be friends for many years before they went on a first date. Don’t discard that option.
Encourage your blind date to be honest
Only if you are totally honest about yourself, can you expect the same from your partner. Building a healthy relationship is a long process so you have to start without lies. Try to make your actions match your words. If you talk about yourself totally honestly, your partner will do the same. You have to build trust from the beginning if you want to maintain honesty in the future.
If you talk about yourself with a lot of self-esteem, you might scare off your future partner. You don’t want to exaggerate either. Encourage your potential partner to talk about himself openly. Don’t talk about commitment and deep feelings because it’s too soon. Let it all happen gradually.
If you are sure that your blind date is honest, you can meet them with no worries.
Don’t tolerate jealousy
One more thing, if you spot a sparkle of jealousy, just run away. We are sure that you deserve a healthy and meaningful relationship. Don’t ignore jealous behavior because it can become only worse. If someone is interested in your ex-lovers and same-sex friends a lot right off the bat, imagine what can happen later.
If you are a friendly person always surrounded with friends, explain that on your first date. It’s not okay to lose your friends because of a relationship. It’s not worth it. Also, you can’t be jealous and you can’t ask someone to reject friends because of you. A relationship based on control and power is unhealthy. Keep that in your mind!
The dating scene is big and colorful so just get out there
When you are ready, you can relax and start the relationship of your dreams. There are no rules, you can find the love of your life behind the corner. Don’t limit yourself and be sure that even if your partner is different from you, that doesn’t mean that he or she can’t fit you perfectly. Boost your mood and try something new – hookup on a dating app, choose an exciting location for the date or meet someone from out of town.
You can’t experience something new if you don’t try it. Be resilient and brave because finding a good blind date is not easy. Don’t be discouraged if you fail a few times. There’s someone for everyone, just be persistent. Be sure to find a nice public place for your meeting and enjoy. Blind dates can be the perfect way to jumpstart an awesome relationship.
We’re keeping our fingers crossed! Good luck!