Let’s face it! When it comes to adult, consensual love (yes, it’s important to emphasize that) things can get pretty complicated, and what some may love, others may find to be… a bit taboo. If you are a young man, reading this post, and you’re looking to find that you’re not alone – well, you’re not. Just look at Emmanuel Macron, the president of France. He is a perfect example of how a guy can fall for a girl quite a bit older than himself, and that it all can turn out to be quite nice.
Some guys just feel that girls their age aren’t mature enough – they find them too childish, and they would like a woman with a bit more substance. When it comes to this topic and when we think about older men dating younger gals, nobody bats an eyelash; yet the whole world implodes when the woman’s the one that’s more experienced, wiser, and older.
So, what is it, in essence, that attracts some young men to date older women? While the reasons will not exactly surprise you, they will tell you a bit more about the human condition. Here are some reasons why younger men dating older women:
1. It’s Flattering
Guys enjoy the attention as much as girls and being at the center of attention of an experienced lady can be quite enjoyable. It’s also enjoyable the other way around. The woman feels empowered, appreciated, and this mix of emotions can lead to quite nice relationships that will last much longer and survive a lot more than your random same-age relationship.
Sex is mostly about power, about giving in to your primal desires, and there is nothing more primal to us humans than being desired, both intellectually and physically. And if you are a woman who has caught the attention of a younger guy; that sort of adrenaline rush and excitement can be difficult to replicate. A lot of confidence can stem from this kind of relationship, and that is a beautiful thing.
2. Older Women Know What They Want
Reaching a certain age means that you’ve lived enough to know exactly what you want, how you want it, and when you want it. Many guys find this attribute impossibly hot, and they find women who think like this, they find it irresistible. Women like this are less likely to play games, be angry about missed messages, or simply let things get too complicated. They will tell you what’s on their mind, and you will know exactly what they want and need.
This kind of communication is something that comes with a lot of experience and being very direct with your desires and intentions can be scary for some, but for others, it can be a relief. Some couples enjoy being direct with everything they do, and they can avoid games that are usually associated with being younger, and insecure.
3. Experience, experience
Yes, we also think about the sexual experience – both ways. A couple where a girl is older is exciting because she will know exactly what she wants, and she will know exactly what you need. Not only can things like this develop greatly in the bedroom, but in the relationship as a whole. And sometimes, giving the initiative to the other partner can be a good thing, and in this case, if this is a more experienced woman – well, the guy is in for a treat.
They will know exactly what to do in order to elicit the perfect response for you, and you will have the best time of your life. This experience will also come in handy in other aspects of your life. Getting wiser with age is not only a silly proverb. It can be quite true, as people tend to recognize shady people better if they have a few years under their belt, and this will give you an opportunity to grow, to develop and learn at an accelerated rate.
4. The Story of Men and Boys
A relationship like this can turn you into a proper man, and you will soon find it silly that you spent so much time clubbing when you could have visited much better bars, and spent your time chasing after women who are much more refined. You will soon learn that spending time in a jazz club, or in a theater, can be as fun as drinking an energy drink-vodka combination.
You need to experience it in order to appreciate it and being with a woman who is a bit more sophisticated will quickly show you all the perks of why it is always better to be a man than a boy.
5. Room to Grow
As we’ve said, this is all an excellent way for you to improve, and to find more room for personal growth. This kind of relationship will make you focus on truly important things in life, and how to learn to live your life without being constantly annoyed by unimportant people, events, or jobs. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t have fun, quite the contrary, you should have more fun with your life and her advice could help with that.
In the end, just go and enjoy whatever makes you happy; each and every relationship is unique – this one is no exception. With respect, and a lot of honesty, every relationship can become a great one, it is up to you to make it work – so give it your best!